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I NEED to stop saying this.

I NEED a new car.

I NEED to find a partner.

I NEED to make more money.

I NEED to workout tomorrow.

We all NEED so much these days, don’t we? I know I do.

But guess what? The more we repeat that mantra to ourselves, the more we acknoledge our lack of.  Repeating that simple word over and over throughout the day sucks the energy right out of our intentions. We’re actually less likely to make that thing happen because we’re recognizing and affirming our void.

You may NEED to get to the gym next week, but what if you started telling your friends that you are EXCITED to get back to your workout routine? What if you said you will really ENJOY eating fresh fruit for breakfast tomorrow morning? Maybe you are feeling GIDDY about the possibility of meeting someone new this week. What if you found it THRILLING to imagine finding a job that allows you to travel and afford to buy groceries for a stranger whenever you want?

It may feel funny and fake at first, but if you continue to retrain your thought patterns, you might notice you start to really believe the positive affirmation. 

TRY IT: 

Fill in the blank and say out loud: I NEED __________.

Repeat that 10 times.

Now rephrase: I’m so EXCITED to ____________.

Repeat that 10 times.

Did you immediately feel like what you want is more possible?

What is that you are EXCITED to accomplish this week?

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Thoughts on Waiting

Now. Now. Now. I want to know NOW!

I’m waiting right now. I’m anxiously, imperfectly, nervously, insecurely, excitedly, waiting to hear if what I want to happen will, in fact, come to pass.

There’s nothing I can do to speed up the time or to know WHAT the outcome will be and it made me think that maybe there are some other people out there who are also standing by and waiting. Maybe they are waiting for a child to be born, waiting to hear if they got the job, waiting to see if it will rain on their vacation, waiting to find out the results of a test, or sitting by their phone, waiting for the cute guy from the bar to text back.

Then it hit me- aren’t I always waiting for something?? I am trying to think back to a point in my life where I wasn’t thinking “What will happen?” and I truly cannot think of a time. It doesn’t matter how content I’ve been or what amazing (or challenging) events are happening in my life, I’m always WAITING!

So, maybe there’s something more to it than just the passing of time. Maybe the universe doesn’t give you (or not give you) things right away because there’s a lesson to learn in the meantime. I have to think this is true. Even if that’s a bunch of bull-hockey, isn’t it a better way to spend your time waiting?

The truth is, things may not turn out the way I want them to. I may not get what I want. Does that discredit me in any way? Does that change my self-worth? Does it make my life any less of a miracle? No. It doesn’t. I think maybe we could use the time “before we know” to focus on being grateful for what we have now- to be grateful for life as it is, before the change (or no change). I think in this way, we can prepare ourselves for any outcome, knowing that we have been and will continue to be taken care of- most of the time in ways that we couldn’t have imagined for ourselves.

Anyhoo, I’ll be over here waiting and trying to be happy about it if anyone wants to join me.

Love ya,

Shayla

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I’ve been using Proactive for over 8 years. And now I’m done.

If you’ve dealt with acne of any kind, you understand the need to get rid of it in any way possible.

I never had a huge problem in high school or college. I got hit in my early twenties. It was deep, cystic, uncomfortable, embarrassing and detrimental to my confidence. With Proactive’s catchy marketing and major promise of relief, I decided to give it a go. For the most part, it worked. I slowly (verrrrrrry slowly) started seeing signs of healing.

The thing is- Proactive (and many other acne treatments) use this thing called Benzoyl Peroxide. I’m not here to tell you that you shouldn’t use this product because HOLY CRAP am I thankful that it got me out of my rut. However, I am here to warn you against the possible negative side effects and give you an insight as to why I decided it doesn’t work for me.

Benzoyl Peroxide provides oxygen to kill bacteria in pores and follicles and it provides benzoic acid to minimize build up and congestion. SO, this is why…well, it works. The thing is, it doesn’t actually FIX the problem. It simply hides your acne for another day. 

Here’s what the Proactive commercials don’t tell you:  BP dries the skin and increases levels of inflammation and free radical production, which leads to premature aging. Its effect is similar to a sun burn. Repeated use damages the skin’s structure and slows the healing process, which leads to red and brown marks that last weeks longer if you are using BP. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m not down with aging quicker than I need to.

When I really started putting all of this together, I decided to ditch the BP for good. It was a terrifying thing to decide. I didn’t know how my skin would react. Would I regress 8 years? Would I totally regret my decision? I was going to find out.

I did some research and came across TONS of people going through the same thing. We all wanted to get off Benzoyl Peroxide, but we didn’t know how. In my next post, I’m going reveal exactly what I did to free myself from this damaging product. I’m pretty much BP free and already my skin looks younger, tighter and has more of a glow! 

Stay tuned.

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May 23, 2013 · 3:14 pm