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I NEED to stop saying this.

I NEED a new car.

I NEED to find a partner.

I NEED to make more money.

I NEED to workout tomorrow.

We all NEED so much these days, don’t we? I know I do.

But guess what? The more we repeat that mantra to ourselves, the more we acknoledge our lack of.  Repeating that simple word over and over throughout the day sucks the energy right out of our intentions. We’re actually less likely to make that thing happen because we’re recognizing and affirming our void.

You may NEED to get to the gym next week, but what if you started telling your friends that you are EXCITED to get back to your workout routine? What if you said you will really ENJOY eating fresh fruit for breakfast tomorrow morning? Maybe you are feeling GIDDY about the possibility of meeting someone new this week. What if you found it THRILLING to imagine finding a job that allows you to travel and afford to buy groceries for a stranger whenever you want?

It may feel funny and fake at first, but if you continue to retrain your thought patterns, you might notice you start to really believe the positive affirmation. 

TRY IT: 

Fill in the blank and say out loud: I NEED __________.

Repeat that 10 times.

Now rephrase: I’m so EXCITED to ____________.

Repeat that 10 times.

Did you immediately feel like what you want is more possible?

What is that you are EXCITED to accomplish this week?

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Shoot and Score- The Corniest Title of My Blog Thus Far

I’m going to be honest with you. I don’t feel very “Positively Shayla” today. In fact, I feel pretty much like crap. I had to literally sit my workout clothes outside the shower at 3pm so I would be forced to put them on without leaving the bathroom. I haven’t worked out in over a week and I’m starting to drag. My outlook is 95% more glum if I don’t sweat on the regular.

I’m also in a period of “uncertainty” right now. I have NO idea what the next year of my life is going to look like. I know what I want to accomplish, but a lot of that is going to rely on where geographically I am in the country and that folks, is anyone’s guess.

So, I really needed to write something today. I need to write to get myself into a new feeling.

Recently my boyfriend Nick and I were over at his friend’s house who has one of those arcade basketball hoop games. You know what I’m talking about? With the mini basketballs and such? Well, anyhoo, they have this VERY dramatic whiteboard on the refrigerator that keeps tally of the all-time top scores. It’s serious stuff. The last time we were there, Nick left the high score on the board at something like 103. As to be expected, he was pretty confident about it.

We come back to his friend’s house this next time and whaddyaknow? Someone BEAT his score with 113. HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE? Well, now he had to do something about it. Nick played that game over and over and over for the next twenty minutes, determined to beat the score. And guess what? He did. He left his friend’s house that night with his name on the board and a new all-time high of 116 points.

I tell you all of this for a reason, trust me. While beating a hoops game is all fun and good, the real point I’m trying to make here is 116 didn’t seem possible the first night we were there. No one had ever done that before. It wasn’t until he saw 113 that Nick KNEW he could beat it. He set his sites on a specific number and he accomplished it.

I think there’s something to learn here. We’ve got to get specific about what we want or we’ll never know what we can accomplish. Not only do we have to know what we want to accomplish, but we’ve got to know that it’s possible. Nick saw that someone else had done it, so why couldn’t he? Our long-term goals are the same.

What outfit are you going to wear on which date on the calendar? What job are you going to have next year and how much it going to pay? How many deep friendships will you cultivate in the next 12 months and what will those friendships look like?

Seek out others who have accomplished what you’re trying to do and go do it. Do it better, even.

Let’s take some cues from the bachelor pad board of fame and put our names on the whiteboard! (just let me have it)

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