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Creating a Show-Up, Not Give-Up Kinda Life

Fitness matters. It matters more than calories in, calories out. It matters more than a number on a scale. It even matters more than getting a six pack by June (and, yes, that has recently been a hashtag on my Insta).

Since moving to Las Vegas two months ago, there has hardly been a day that I haven’t sweat or pushed myself beyond what I thought my physical limits were. And while I have seen significant and welcome changes to my physique, the real change has been mental.

I’m learning that pain and struggle are surmountable, that challenge isn’t a bad word and that if you keep showing up, it does get easier. It becomes your lifestyle to keep showing up.

I had a meeting with a commercial agent today that didn’t go very well. She told me that she had no room for me, she wouldn’t book me and that I looked much older than my picture. Folks, that hurt. I most definitely had a moment of “can I handle this?” going through my head.

But then I went on a run tonight. And let me express how much I am intimidated by running. I don’t think I’m built for it and I kind of, sort of hate it, but I know I’ve got to show up and challenge myself in that area.

During the run I thought to myself, “This is why I workout. If you just keep going, despite being uncomfortable, despite the pain, despite feeling like giving up, you’re eventually to get what you want.”

Okay, so I didn’t think EXACTLY that. But it was something like that, interjected with thoughts about my burning calves, tight chest and the stupidity I felt for running right after downing some pork chops and quinoa.

The point it is, I can’t let someone’s opinion stop me from doing what I love to do and I can’t let a little burn in my calves stop me from finishing the run. Every day that I get up and push myself physically a little further than I’ve been before, I’m also creating a mental toughness that will feed the rest of my life.

Get up and get out there. Though I do suggest you start sweating doing something you love, not something you kind of, sort of hate. 😉



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Get Out of the Bubble.

The lesson of my month has been this: opportunity is always waiting for you to step outside the bubble. Imagine yourself floating around inside a flying bubble, i.e., Oz the Great and Powerful, if that helps. It protects you and keeps you comfortable. You have all you need in there to be safe. After a while though, it gets super boring. Nothing new is happening to you and you’re starting to feel a little unfulfilled because, as humans, one of the ways we create happiness is through experiencing and overcoming a challenge. You’re never going to be challenged inside your floating bubble.

The moment you step out of it and enter into “the danger zone” opportunity will be drawn to you like a magnet. I learned this (one could say, AGAIN) in the last two weeks. A couple Mondays ago, I was having one of those YUCK days. I felt like my artistic life had come to a complete and utter standstill.

Enter Shayla’s Breakdown: Why wasn’t ANYTHING happening? Why did Evansville SUCK? WHY ME?!

It went something like that.

The next day (seriously, the very next day), I went online to pay my Equity dues, for the union I’m a part of as an actor. Let’s call that- Action Step 1. Okay, I thought, let’s see what’s going on in the performance world. Turns out, there was an audition for a few shows in a couple weeks that I could actually do and BAM, booked an audition. Action Step 2.

After deciding that I was going to take a leap there, I thought maybe I could use some updated headshots. So, I threw it out there to universe and BAM, booked a headshot session the next day two blocks from my apartment! Action Step 3.

Lo and behold, the photographer doing my shots was LOOKING FOR A SINGER for his band. WHAT? BAM. Booked an audition and landed a gig in a band. Action Step 4.

Do you see where I’m going here? I went from miserable to having that sweet, sweet feeling of fulfillment and energy just by paying a bill online. I took action and the wonderful, ever-giving universe responded by basically handing me opportunity and growth. Yes, it was kind of overwhelming and a little bit scary to start to dip my toes back out of my bubble, but I’m totally glad I did it.

The really awesome part is, I’m gaining strength and confidence with every step I take. Fear starts to lose its power when you prove it wrong over and over.

So, what is it that you can do today? Call about the job? Look on Craigslist? Take a walk? Answer an email? Get some crayons and color in the Disney coloring book with your kid? Maybe it’s take a nap. Whatever has been whispering to you from outside of your bubble, listen to it today. Then, get excited for the opportunity that’s getting ready to come knocking and when it does, don’t forget to answer!

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